Guide to Ongoing Formation for Priests (Ascension)

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Appendix B: Evaluating When a Priest Requires Assistance

268 Empathy Issues: Being able to share feelings when appropriate and not to share when not appropriate—according to the nature of a relationship—is a sign of maturity. If a priest is consistently unable to empathize with others, this inability is cause for concern. Also, if the priest consistently shares deep personal feelings with minors or others over whom he has an authority relationship, the situation should be investigated. Social Support Problems 269 Supportive Relationships: All priests should be able to identify people who know them well and whom they trust. If they do not communicate regularly with their support persons, personally and by phone or video conferencing, this lack is cause for concern. Also, a priest who cannot identify someone with whom he can freely share in depth is at greater risk for succumbing to emotional problems. 270 Peer Relationships: All priests need supportive relationships with other clergy. Although some priests are comfortable being loners or prefer mixing with laity, they should at least be comfortable mixing with peers at official gatherings. A lack of peer relationships is cause for concern. 271 Pastoral Relationships: Effective shepherding of the flock requires establishing close relationships with parishioners. Although most often these develop into healthy friendships, sometimes they can evolve into unhealthy and emotionally charged relationships. Such a development can signal the abuse of power, temptations against chastity, and codependency. Such situations are not healthy for either individual.

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